The AI of the Deal
Ready or not, you're at the table. Faced with possibly the most important deal of your career, failure is not an option. Life has hopefully prepared you for this moment, as academia certainly couldn't have. There's unfortunately still no truly effective rehearsal methods for the most stressful moments in life. So - ready or not - as well-informed as you may be, you storm in firing from the hip. Your heart's pounding, your mind's racing, your stomach's doing gymnastics. You've studied the relevant market(s), you've solidified your arguments, you've even worn your Sunday best - but what's really our goal here?
Do we honestly expect our fancy education, with our predetermined anchors and weak spots - our spiffy BATNAs and ZOPAs - to somehow... impress our counterpart into concession? This piece is highly-inspired by Chris Voss’ own brilliant bestseller, Never Split the Difference, in which he illustrates how the entire crux of the deal is emotional connection. Now, consider this: what if you had an AI assistant by your side, capable of not just analyzing the data, but also predicting the emotional responses of your counterpart? We know the machine has advanced far enough to dissect and interpret semantic meaning from given inputs -but is that bridge one-way? We shall see for ourselves. Not science fiction - this is the evolving landscape of negotiation, the future of the deal itself. We'll explore the psychological intricacies of negotiation, and examine the rise of AI in the space, considering how these two very different disciplines can intersect – and perhaps even teach us new nuances of perspective in turn.
Bartering in the Wild
So then, our first step is paradoxically our only legitimate problem: people. Building upon the premise that negotiation extends far beyond the realm of pure logic and calculated strategy, it becomes clear that to be an effective dealmaker, we must understand the intricate dance of human emotions and motivations. The analytical approach, as we explored in the introduction - while crucial in its own right - is incomplete without a deep understanding of the human psyche. We're not negotiating with robots, we're interacting with people - individuals driven by complex needs, aspirations, and often, irrational emotions. To truly master the art of persuasion, we must first venture into the heart of human interaction. Central to this understanding is the concept of active listening, which goes beyond the act of merely hearing words - it's about truly understanding the speaker, their underlying emotions and the true motivations that guide them.
You should never be formulating your counter-argument while the other party is speaking. It's about making them feel heard, acknowledged, and understood. This can be achieved through techniques like summarizing and paraphrasing, where you reflect back what you've heard in your own words to confirm mutual comprehension, and by asking open-ended questions that invite the other party to freely share their perspective without feeling boxed-in. Even subtle cues like body language, tone of voice, and facial expressions can provide invaluable insights into the other party’s true needs and feelings. By paying careful attention to these elements, we can gain a deeper understanding that transcends the surface-level exchange of positions. Closely entangled with active listening is the power of mirroring - that subtle, often unconscious, act of matching someone's body language, tone of voice, or language patterns. When done authentically, this can create a powerful sense of rapport, building a bridge of understanding and trust between negotiating parties. It's a way of saying, "I'm like you, I understand you," which makes the other party feel more comfortable and more open to finding common ground.
However, it's also critical to be aware that the potential perception of inauthenticity on the receiving side of such tactics may not only backfire on the negotiator, but also tarnish the working relationship. Effective active empathy is about subtle alignment, not outright mimicry. A key component of negotiating with the human element, as Chris Voss masterfully illustrates in Never Split the Difference, is the act of labeling emotions. When we can identify and name what the other party is feeling - for example, "It sounds like you're frustrated," or "You seem hesitant about this" - we create a sense of validation, which can defuse tension, and even ignite collaborative conversation. It is essential to articulate the emotions in a safe, unprejudiced way, in order to foster trust and understanding. Leading with vulnerability in a negotiation setting may seem directly counterintuitive to the desired outcome, yet is a practice shared among the very greatest closers.
Artful Persuasion
Looking beyond the concepts of active empathy and connection, we must also leverage the inherent biases and motivations that drive human behavior. Easily the most potent of these psychological forces is loss aversion - regardless of confidence or advantage, we are all inescapably afraid of losing, of falling. It's as natural to us as breathing, and, curiously - whereas it took some poor ancient caveman burning himself on the pretty moving flower to teach us fire bad - we were all born afraid of falling. It's actually the first thing that ever happens to us, when you think about it (or at least naturally, Macduff) - so perhaps that's when we learn. Going on, this naturally heavier force of fear than hope is a powerful truth which skilled negotiators understand and use to their advantage. The way you frame your offer becomes crucial in this regard, as it's endlessly discretionary and instinctual - but, in a more hardball setting for example, instead of focusing on what one's counterpart could gain, subtly shift the tone and perspective to centralize what they stand to lose should the deal not close. It is, however, a sharp tightrope. Play to anxiety ineffectively, excessively, or in bad faith (only if perceptible to the other side), and proceed to make a scrappy extortionist of yourself - which could easily topple a valuable relationship. Accordingly, such things are most often best left on the table, but accounted for, from a tactical perspective.
The power of the word “no” cannot be overstated. Instead of seeing a rejection as an absolute, effective negotiators realize that “no” is simply the announcement that the deal has officially commenced. Through strategically deflecting, reframing, and approaching the no's - you can unlock new directions for a discussion that may otherwise have been completely extinguished. Perhaps most importantly, at the core of every negotiation is the act of uncovering the underlying needs and motivations behind the stated positions. It's not enough to take someone at their word, especially in a high pressure situation. The effective negotiator is constantly asking why, digging beneath the surface of stated claims, in order to understand the deeper more profound needs of their counterpart. Funnily enough, what a person initially asks for at the negotiating table is essentially never what they actually want - they guard their true desire like a tightly-clutched pearl - and surprisingly often, it is something far more doable and agreeable. We get in our own way and make it counterproductively harder to get what we want... ironically because we want it so much. This ultimately renders us this miracle of anthropology, an order demanding of chaos: the barter - which ultimately demands empathic song and dance, not rationale and logical solutions. By understanding and applying the psychological elements in reach, we move beyond surface-level exchanges and into the deeper layers of the negotiation dynamic, ensuring that we not only receive our desire in a given situation, but forge lasting relationships - the real currency of success. As technology continues to evolve, however, this raises the perplexing question - how could a robot even hope to jump into this?!
Straightshooters NOT Welcome
As we've previously elaborated on in these blogs - the best thing you can tell a computer is precisely what you want in as few words as possible. "Please" was paradoxically not very much appreciated on the machine's side, because in effect, you forced the LLM to render 2 more tokens for nothing. So - in reference to the occlusive, oppositional, and emotionally-volatile quagmire that is the negotiating table - it seems hopeless that these intelligent machines could ever be of use, much less so teach us anything. When, as we've established, you're not allowed to ask for what you want logically - and logic is the only language machines can understand - this leaves them squarely locked out. And for now, this may just remain the case. Despite its impressive computational abilities, and its recent advancements in the realm of semantic analysis, AI is still inherently limited by its inability to truly comprehend the subtle complexities of human interaction that are at the heart of effective persuasion. It successfully draws semantic parallels - but it doesn't internalize the actual content. In other words: a machine can match two sad faces together - but it can't tell you what sad is. It knows what "sad" appears to be based on its reserve of behavioral data - but you know what sadness is because you've felt it.
The capacity for semantic analysis - the machine's ability to dissect and interpret the meaning of text and language - is the entire framework which the Chatbot interface is built on. In the context of negotiation, this could translate to identifying key arguments, detecting inconsistencies, and even potentially recognizing emotional undertones in written and transcribed communication. Imagine a scenario where an AI could flag a veiled threat or a subtle manipulation tactic hidden within a lengthy contract. This ability to rapidly process and synthesize information could theoretically give a human negotiator a significant advantage. However, even at its best, AI struggles to grasp the nuances of context, tone, and body language. It’s one thing to identify a series of words as potentially angry, and entirely another thing to truly understand the underlying motivations and complexities behind that anger - and how best to address the conflict. Steering attention to the root of the why, as opposed to the exact question posed is an entirely alien concept to AI. How does a system that thrives on directives going to learn to... be skeptical of said directives?
2 Enter 1 Breathes
Consider the earlier discussed concepts of mirroring or labeling emotions. While an AI system might, in theory, be programmed to mimic these behaviors, sure, it lacks the genuine emotional intelligence and empathy that makes these techniques truly effective. A bot might detect an emotion and mechanically regurgitate a matching phrase, but it can’t actually feel it, and cannot authentically connect to the experience. This lack of authenticity can easily undermine the very rapport-building process that the AI was supposed to be facilitating. Humans are often very skilled at detecting artificiality, and a clumsy attempt at mimicking human emotion can easily come across as disingenuous or manipulative. Furthermore, when we consider that so much of effective negotiation occurs not just with words, but through subtle non-verbal cues, such as facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice - the deficiencies of our current AI become even more glaring. An emotional battle of subversive manipulation is likely the machine's Guantanamo. While facial recognition technologies have made immense progress, the complexity of decoding nuanced emotional expressions (a twitch of the eye, a slight change in tone) is still beyond the capability of most current AI algorithms. This inherent limitation means that AI currently lacks the ability to truly “read the room” and adapt its negotiation strategies accordingly – the most critical element of human persuasion.
Moreover, while an AI system can process huge datasets and identify patterns, it may also struggle with the unpredictable and often irrational nature of human decision-making. Negotiations are neither perfectly linear nor logical. They're influenced by a myriad of emotional, cultural, and situational factors that can be difficult, if not impossible, for an algorithm to fully account for. In every negotiation - the road taken is always more important than the destination reached - and trying to impart that to an iterative task-performing machine is like trying to teach a fish to climb a tree. This inflexibility can lead to an AI being caught off-guard or failing to adapt to a sudden change in circumstances or emotional climate. A system is only as good as the data it's built on, and given the chaotic nature of human experience, AI may simply be limited by the sheer scope of the human experience. And then we face the daunting prospect of all of these processes being done on an even larger scale, with an even greater scope of variables. These limitations, of course, don’t negate AI's potential in negotiation completely, they are, after all, world-class data wranglers and great for assisting in written correspondence scenarios - but it serves as a powerful reminder that human understanding, empathy, and adaptability remain essential. As it stands now, current AI lacks the nuanced emotional intelligence to engage on the same level as humans – and, most importantly, cannot build genuine trust. And frankly, good. The implications of a machine advanced enough to serve as a functional "negotiation bot" leaves far more to be feared than the short end of a deal.
Cobi Tadros is a Business Analyst & Azure Certified Administrator with The Training Boss. Cobi possesses his Masters in Business Administration from the University of Central Florida, and his Bachelors in Music from the New England Conservatory of Music. Cobi is certified on Microsoft Power BI and Microsoft SQL Server, with ongoing training on Python and cloud database tools. Cobi is also a passionate, professionally-trained opera singer, and occasionally engages in musical events with the local Orlando community. His passion for writing and the humanities brings an artistic flair with him to all his work! |
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